Officially a Step Mama

My heart grew so much yesterday I do not even have words. 
Our wedding was a perfect adventure.
I know where I stand with some people and in the most extraordinary ways I know who I am more because I found my heart and soulmate(s).
I married the right person yesterday and to get to that place I had to make a lot of mistakes, tumble backwards on uphill journeys, and even marry the wrong person. 
I am not just a wife I am officially a mother. I am so many things I thought I would never be because of love and taking chances. Swiping right was the best and most romantic thing I have ever done. 

Here's the only sneak peak I am willing to share! Once my pictures are in I will write a full post and link to vendors and ideas and etsy shops for anyone who might want to give them a try! 


Hawaiian Rehearsal Dinner Roller Coaster Ride

 The time is here!!!!
I am getting married tomorrow! I can hardly believe it! 

Everything I think of to write about I keep deciding to save for when I have pictures but we did throw a rehearsal dinner at our house. We went with a Hawaiian theme since we are (1) going to Hawaii for our honeymoon next summer and (2) going to walk down the aisle to the sweet sounds of the theme from the Pixar short, Lava, played on cello and ukulele. 

I went with yellow and green and put out some Disney Hawaiian touches (some cute Stitch, Maui, and Moana toys). We had some Ecto Cooler (yes you read that right) in pitchers along with Mai Tais, and the main course was slow-cooked sweet Hawaiian pulled pork tacos. I cooked the pork all day as we did last minute wedding prep and prepared the toppings the night before: a fresh salad slaw, mango pineapple salsa, black beans heated with pineapple (also used as a vegetarian option to pork), an array of shredded cheeses, and some fresh veggies chopped up. We also had potato salads and macaroni salads and some Hawaiian sweet rolls. 

Our Dinner Party Playlist was a modified version of the one I had made for our Housewarming/Engagement Party last year:
Lava theme
When I'm Married - Wilder Atkins
Humble & Kind - Tim McGraw
Mango Tree - Zac Brown Band
Falling Slowly - Once broadway musical soundtrack
Laundry Room - The Avett Brothers
Thinking Out Loud - Ed Sheeran
You & Me - Dave Matthews Band
Ghosts That We Knew - Mumford & Sons
Flowers in Your Hair - The Lumineers
Dog Days are Over - Florence + the Machine
I Need Never Get Old - Nathanial Rateliff & the Night Sweats 
Three Little Birds - Bob Marley
How Far I'll Go - Moana
California - Phantom Planet 
Cake by the Ocean - DNCE 
Hello Sunshine - Langhorne Slim
Whole Wide World - Cage the Elephant
Work Song - Hozier  
Reptiles (We Woke Up) - Flogging Molly
Wildflowers - Tom Petty 
It Had to be You - Cliff Edwards 
Wonderful World - IZ


Wedding Fever!

I made this sign because as you walk inside the winery there is a staircase that goes up a half flight and then opens up to half flights leading left and right. This sign will be placed on the landing and incorporates our styling, colors, themes, and love.

Wedding planning has been amazing and also bittersweet for me. I have had to re-deal with some issues from my past, which of course, lead to more transformations of self. I also had to deal with the realization that the visions I had of excitedly planning with my soon-to-be-stepkids was not going to be allowed to happen because of the guilt from their birth mother. I had to reconcile my expectations were about double what my reality would allow. I also had to take on the planning and budgeting (as I am writing this after final payments have been due, I can assure you all I am still terrible at budgeting appropriately) and the accomplishment (hopefully) of creating a day that was all about us. 

I have been dying to share some of my favorite details and shout out my vendors so here I go! 

Our Engagement announcements, Housewarming/Engagement Party invites, and Wedding stationary was all created by the talented Monique at Only One Mark Inc

As we have been getting replies I have been saving them in a homemade RSVP box, which was just a small shipping box I had covered in washi tape and then some chalkboard tape! I took Monique's advice and numbered invites as well as writing in all names so that there was no confusion or awkwardness!

We decided to go with one big long "viking" table for our meal. We are having white table cloths with burlap table linens and navy blue napkins. Our plates are shaped like petals and lanterns that will be placed along the aisle during out ceremony will double as center pieces (we have no aisle runner but instead have white lanterns with rose petals going down the aisle). We had place card holders set up which had been made of chopped wood and decided to put them at each seat, but that meant I needed to create a map for seating. I used chalkpaint on plywood with white acrylic paints on top instead of chalk to draw out a map. I purposely roughly painted to edges to go with our rustic craftsman theme and we placed the huge map on our guestbook table.

Bridesmaid hair styles found on Pinterest, which I thought would be where I found most of my ideas but besides style I ended up already knowing what I wanted and then searching for things to add to my pin board. I guess when you give yourself time and confidence, we all already know what our style is we just need to find someone that empowers us to figure it out! 

I did have a hard time finding pictures of some of the things I wanted and this picture end up being the Bridal Hair inpsiration I came across (found on Pinterest but with no tutorial links or even side or back views).

We were able to score knock-offs of the designer bridesmaid dresses I saw in a Wedding magazine on Amazon that fit better and cost under $40! (They also had them on Ebay but Amazon Prime shipping won the day!)
The men are rocking 3 piece navy blue suits with these adorable ties and for boutonnieres, Grape Soda pins a la Disney-Pixar's Up (they are part of a club now). My gown is tea length and lace that will look good with the girls style and the retro feel of the men's suits. I am wearing navy shoes to pull all the colors together.
So many more details and pictures to come with playlists and vendor links! 
I am so excited to celebrate our love!